Travelling constantly is actually hard. It doesn’t solve your problems and it will not allow you to run away from your problems for long.
Travelling is amazing for perspective around your issues and gives you a blank slate to deal with them away from your normal surroundings.
Here’s a list of things I’ve struggles with:
1. Lack of stability – I’ve realised that I crave stability, even when I’m travelling. This is why I don’t travel constantly.
2. Sickness – In most popular third-world DN countries, jokes about diarrhoea and dengue etc are commonplace. Being sick regularly makes me crave home and to be taken care of. I miss my Dad a lot at these times.
3. Loneliness – With constantly transient friendships, it’s hard to make real friendships. We can be friends with many people (my friend list on facebook has gone from <200 to >700 since I started travelling. It’s great that we can reconnect with people on the other side of the world but the novelty expires pretty quickly when you realise you still have a handful of friends you really care about.
If you’re new to this, here’s are the ways I’ve been able to deal with it:
1. I allow myself the space to feel the issues, deal with it in a healthy way and change things if they’re not working. After all this is my adventure.
2. Talk about it – DN’s tend to have similar problems and it binds us together.
3. Feel the problems and really deal with it – Being away from home allows us the space to learn new things without old habits/people getting in the way.
4. Create your own adventure – Don’t feel bad about wanting to go home or realising you don’t want to travel constantly. This whole adventure is yours and you create whatever makes you happy.
5. Go home – This is an option digital nomads don’t like to consider. It feels like giving up. But sometimes you need to go travelling to really appreciate what you have at home. I have really come to appreciate the stability of being home.
To the point where I’m considering being at home for the next few months.
Take care of yourself. Screw holding onto what you thought you want before you started travelling.
Allow yourself the freedom to change your mind.
Before I travelled, I thought of myself as being some whose home was ‘the world’. Nowadays, I realise my home is where I find stability.